Charity Mainville
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Charity Mainville

You may be wondering who am I to be giving out lessons in humanity. I am not a saint by any means, nor am I making any attempt to be some kind of guru. I am not a therapist, doctor, or scientist. I don’t hold a position of authority or have a million followers.

I am a human. I have made more mistakes than I can count and done things I’m not proud of. I’ll probably make more errors in this lifetime. That’s part of being human, doing dumb shit so we can learn and grow from it. Sometimes it takes one or twenty times until we get it right. I don’t regret any of it. I know everything I have experienced and learned has led me to this path.

I decided to start this blog because I realized that all paths are filled with a lot of confusing directions, misguided signs, and potholes. Knowing where to go, what to do, what is right, and how to fix all the missteps is just as messy as the path itself.

It is not my intention to force my beliefs, opinions, or values on anyone. My intention is simply to share what I’ve learned and allow people the freedom to decide what to do with it. I don’t expect everyone to agree with me. In fact, I would hope not because I like to challenge others’ perspectives and I will always invite others to challenge mine.

But I think if I am going to be spouting off about controversial topics or asking anyone to trust me, it’s important to understand who I am – the parts that aren’t so easily “Googled.”

I am a proud dog mom with four decades of life experience, but it feels like hundreds. My greatest passion is writing and I have been doing so since I could pick up a pen.

I am a Leo with a Scorpio rising and a Gemini moon. I am mostly French, a good chunk of Italian, and 1-3% of a lot of everything else.

I have an extremely complex mind and a conflicted soul. I believe in science and magic. I am a skeptic with blind faith.

I have superior executive functioning and memory that allows me to be self-taught in most things I know because I absorb knowledge, see things in different perspectives, question everything, spend endless hours searching for answers, and remember more than I care to.

I have an ENFJ (link) personality, which is found in only 2.2% of the population. People with this personality type are also known as protagonists – “believers of the people.”

I am an intuitive empathic old soul. I can be clairvoyant when I can sit still enough to focus. I am clairsentient, which causes a lot of anxiety, and I am claircognizant, which can, at times, drive me (and probably others that deal with me) to a point of insanity. I am still trying to understand my gifts, which have taken me years to even accept.

No, I don’t consider myself a psychic or prophet. I just see people, animals, and events differently than others and know things that I can’t possibly explain how I know.

I have the ability to feel how others feel and know when they are lying even before I could speak. I can see what a person is capable of – good and bad. It gives me a unique moral obligation to help people as much as I can and I have been more than willing to do so.

I have met and interacted with thousands of people throughout my life. It has brought me a lot of joy, but also a lot of pain because I have yet to learn how to manage all I possess.

I have been physically, sexually, verbally, psychologically, and emotionally abused by different people during different times in my life. I have gone through depression and struggle with anxiety and complex PTSD.

I have tried multiple therapies and other healing modalities, but nothing has really worked other than hope. Hope for a reason, hope for an answer, hope for something better to come and eventually it did.

Little did I know that hope actually was the answer and how important it was to my path in this life until I discovered Human Design. Discovering what it meant to be a 3/6 Pure Generator opened my eyes to the things I thought were “wrong” with me, were actually gifts hidden in the depths of shadows. It also showed me why I had hope - it’s core part of being a Line 6 also known as the Role Model. We have to endure challenges to learn the lessons in life to grow into who we are meant to truly be. Hope is our light to survive the dark. 

Hope gives me strength, but keeps me kind. I trust without resistance and believe loyalty is a gift I give to those who deserve it.

I don’t like conflict and prefer not to fight, but I don’t run from it either. If I feel something or someone has been wronged, I will fight for them even if I don’t know the person.

If I’m wronged or lied to, I always try to give the other person a chance to make it right. However, if they don’t, I will come crashing down on them like Athena herself. I believe in justice and that retribution and forgiveness should only be given when they are earned.

I believe honesty is most important above all. I don’t sugarcoat anything and I’m sure at times I can come off as insensitive or tactless. I lack the patience for dishonesty because authentic people and reliable information is becoming less and less the world.

I vow what I write will be authentic and honest to the best of my ability. If at any time what I write is wrong, tell me. After all, I am still human.

The Concept

Lessons of Charity is a blog related to the “human condition with an emphasis on Human Design and science.

It focuses on the grey area of humanity, spirituality, justice, and morality through current events, history, theories, facts, individual stories.

The Purpose

There are approximately 7.9 billion people on Earth. It took over 200,000 years for the human population to reach 1 billion in 1804. That means the human population has grown sevenfold in only 200 years.

This planet once held nine other human species, but homo sapiens (That’s us!) are the only to survive. Our endurance is believed to be a result of our intellect, innovation, communication skills, and social human behavior.

We passed our knowledge of innovation down from one generation to the next, allowing for advancement and adaptation to new environments.

But innovation isn’t the only thing we’ve passed down. Beliefs, behaviors, illnesses, and trauma are passed from generation to generation as well, which can affect human development.

The ability to sense fear and the need for love are natural human instincts. Fear and love help develop our conscience, personality, empathy, and compassion. Without love, we don’t experience connection. If we can’t connect, we can’t learn empathy or compassion. A lack of empathy or compassion allows us to hurt others without remorse.

That hurt, whether it is physical, sexual, emotional, or psychological, leads to trauma. Trauma leads to fear. If we don’t have the proper guidance as we grow to manage that fear or heal, we develop unhealthy ways to cope.

Unhealthy coping mechanisms can lead to mental illness and personality disorders. Some disorders can make people toxic and abusive, causing lifelong side effects. The impacts of these disorders are felt for generations to come.

In addition, friends, leaders, spiritual guides, celebrities, and popular opinion influence our beliefs and morals. Fear drives ignorance and spreads misinformation, which leads to racism, sexism, discrimination, and more.

Humans have become desensitized to the horrors of the world. What is actually toxic, most think is normal. The toxicity is causing a lack of empathy and compassion for other living things. People are using fear to control others instead of promoting hope to help others. That fear is destroying self-esteems and driving hypocrisy.

We are in an Age of Ignorance. If humans continue down this path, the future of humanity will soon be unredeemable. The knowledge and innovation that led our species to survive will in the end destroy us and everything around us.

It may not happen today, tomorrow, or even in this generation, but we have a responsibility to future generations. We have a moral obligation to teach each other and children the difference between good and evil and right and wrong. But how can we if we don’t even know the difference ourselves? 

The intent of this blog is to provide the resources you need to be a part of driving humanity forward into a new age—an Age of Compassion—to bring back faith, hope, and, of course, charity.

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